It's been along year for our family. Marvin passed away a little over a year ago and my step-dad, Gary passed away in late February. Today would be his birthday. He'd had a rough few years dealing with the effects of radiation and chemotherapy after throat cancer. He was in remission for over 5 years, but the effects of the treatment stayed with him making it difficult to swallow, eat and in general just feel well. After many doctor visits and even a trip to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, MN not much could be done to alleviate the blood pressure issues, swallowing difficulty, frequent pneumonia and tiredness.
While I don't think anyone should tell someone who has just lost someone that the person who has just died is in a better place, because what you really want it them here on earth with you. BUT I do know that he has finally found peace and know that he is certainly with out pain. Which is what we all wanted for him.